“I can’t seem to make even simplest decisions. I am also finding it hard to take any actions!”
When you are under cultural stress, decision making can become unusually difficult. Even the simplest, easy choices under normal circumstances might be hard to make.
The cause for this can be isolation and not having someone around to connect with, which are common among expats whose spouses are working but who are staying at home.
Do you have someone to whom you can unload your worries and concerns? Someone with whom you can share your thoughts and feelings? If your answer is no to either one, you know what’s been missing in your new expat life and what’s causing your stress.
When you feel this way, you need to immediately find and meet someone who can be a soundboard for you. If you had someone like that before moving, but haven’t found a new person yet, you can send your SOS signal to your old friend to chat over Voip. But that would be only a temporary solution. You will need to find some friends or a community where you can unload some of your burdens and seek some support.
Also, you could perhaps use some quiet time alone when you can reflect. You may want to reserve some time and space without any TV, internet, or interruptions. Sit and think through your current life, work, and future dreams and aspirations. Write down your thoughts and feelings. This reflection will help identify your problems and help you focus on a strategy to solve them.
When you are going through a culture shock, it’s difficult to see the light at the end of the tunnel. You might act or feel very differently from your usual self, and none of these are usually very constructive. The good news is that there are ways to counter culture shock and prevent these negative, unproductive personal reactions. Remember that you are not alone in this. Most people who move into a new culture need time to adjust and find new ways to recharge and refresh themselves in the new environment.